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Relationships — By Original Mgbeke on June 22, 2009 4:20 pm
Hey guys, Mgbeks here!
Lately I’ve been pondering on this issue of sex in a relationship and why it is SO important to men. I keep having conversations with guys who insist that if their girls aren’t giving it up then she got to go. They say things like ‘body no be firewood o’ or ‘Even if I agreed to not wait with her till marriage, I would have a jump off on the side’. I’ve even heard things like ‘You have to test drive the car before you buy it’ and even worse…’If she isn’t giving it up, she will be NEXTED’.
I once had a conversation with a guy who had been in a 5 year relationship and when I asked the no sex question, he replied and told me that if his girlfriend had asked him to wait till marriage, they would not have lasted for 5 years.
Once again, I’m picking on you men because I can’t tell you that I’ve ever heard a female tell me that if there was no sex in a relationship, a guy would be instantly NEXTED. Honestly, I realize that body no be firewood etc etc but seriously guys, is sex the ultimate thing that makes or breaks a relationship?
Imagine if you met a woman who was everything that you wanted and more, would you really let her go because she wasn’t willing to hit the sheets with you?
What is the huge fuss over a maximum of 1 hour of pleasure…and please I’m cutting y’all some slack up in here ‘cos if we have to keep it 100, it probably wouldn’t even reach one hour. LOL, I’m just saying though…
I mean, the thing just tire me o. My ladies, are you feeling me on this or am I alone on this one?
My dudes, please feel free to comment o. I welcome all questions, comments and insults. Ha Ha! I’m just trying to get a general understanding of this right here.
Why is sex so important in a relationship?
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SEX IS PART OF LIFE WITCH WE CANT RESIST FROM XPECIALLY IN RELATIONSHIP
FOR ME OOOOOOOOO……………..I MUST TEST THE CAR BEFORE I BUY AM……….COS E DON HAPPEN TO ME…………I BUY A CAR N SAY I NO GO DRIVE AM UNTIL XMAS………….UNFORTUNATE FOR ME IT WAS STOLLEN ON XMAS EVE.
TALKING FROM XPERIECE
See let me say my mind.its this way if you want sex before marriage go for a girl that is compatable with that and if you dont want then seek the one affiliated to your needs,but to my expirence in life sex,is essential its the spice of a lasting relationship.and why i say so is because my ex-girlfriend left me because she says,she want someone to make her feel the sensational erotic expirence.so thats my view.
mehn..i am strongly behind u..sex isnt the way in relationship..i have worked by that and i am a guy of 18yrs
Good opinion Emba,
But u r not a guy but a boy yo.
18? Wat do u know? Loverkid.
Stay on d sidelines & listen to words of wisdon K?
same is happening to me,but just want you all to know is needed bcos sex should not be justify like we the guys also have no balls that should be appreciated even if yours is.(no hard feeling).
Girl im with u on dis 1 … na wa NAIJA guysz in yankee oo … The thing don tire me self. The worst part is that the people asking for sex are the same useless men that do not do anything to your life .. (The don’t contribute to ur living or anything like that) … Most of them are just rather useless to me but YET they want u 2 JUMP & ask them HW HIGH in the process
Sex should NOT be the determining factor in a relationship … If a Lady wants to have sex in a relationship then fine but if not .. wat d heck is d big deal??
i actually thinks sex is unnecessary,u dont av to av sex before a guy loves or a girl loves u,i wont say they shouldnt have sex but the point is,is he or she the right person?,if a guy really loves u he wont leave u because u did not allow him,or vise-versa.the point is,before u do it,be sure u wont do it with anyone else in your life,if u keep that then u should be fine,BUT THE MAIN ISSUE IS LOVE CONQUERS ALL,IF THE LOVE IS THERE N STRONG SEX WONT MEAN ANYTHING,IT WILL ONLY MEANS SOMETHING IF ITS LIKE A COMMITMENT AND BOTH OF U AGREED U ARE READY FOR THAT,SEX IS NOT SOMETHING U THROW AROUND.ITS MORE COMPLICATED,WEN GOD PUTS A COMMANDMENT ON THAT HE KNOWS Y,SEX IS LIKE A BOUND WHICH MANY DO NOT UNDERSTAND,IF U ARE THAT TYPE OF ORE THAT SLEEPS AROUND ARE JUST MAKING UR LIFE MISERABLE N U WILL THINK U ARE HAVING FUN,JUST IMAGINE HOW MANY PEOPLE U ARE BONDED WIT IN THE SPIRIT,THATS WHERE THE FLAWNS REFLECT.
LAST ADVISE,BEFORE U DO IT MAKE VERY SURE U WONT DO IT WITH ANYBODY ALSE N DAT U ARE READY FOR IT,THIS GOES TO BOTH BOYS AND GIRLS.
SEX IS MORE COMPLICATED THAN IT LOOKS.
well as smone said already, guys would be guys but it can’t be dat bad…….abah. a little pass up from tym to tym might save your lyf………..hahahha
When two people are in a relationship and they care about each other deeply, I think sex is important because it takes the relationship to another level. Sex with just anyone is not needed. Friends with benefits, I don’t think so. How may other friends might they be getting benefits from?
Sex is important if it’s important to the two people in a relationship. If you are not having it and you care for each other and it’s working, keep it going. Sex is not the most important thing in life. But, from my view, great sex with the right person can be AMAZING. BE SAFE OUT THERE.
Sex is not a big deal, most ppl just make so much fuss bout it, no doubt we guys r 2 horny 4 our own good, but ladies 2 want some ….2, so I’m not encouragin ppl 2 slp around or be bitchy, but if u r feelin d itch pls feel free 2 scratch.
HAHA THE TALE AS OLD AS TIME ! DO I REALLY HAVE TO LEAVE MY 2 CENTS OR RATHER MY 2 KOBOS ON THIS ?!
OK OK….FIRST OF..LADIES UR NOT MEANT TO UNDERSTAND HOW WE THINK OR WHY WE WANT WHT WE WANT ..IT’S A GUY THING ! JUST ACCEPT IT ! A GUY WANTS TO HAVE SEX !! IF POSSIBLE ALL THE TIME !!! I CAN’T OVEREMPHASIZE THIS ENOUGH !! WE THINK ABOUT IT ALL THE TIME !! (I KNOW I SHOULDNT BE GENERALISING..AND I’M NOT..SO ALL YOU GOODY-TWO-SHOES GUYS OUT THERE PLS NO DRAMA FROM YOU..I’M BAD..UR GOOD PERIOD!)..
IF WE’RE NOT GETTING IT FROM YOU (BECAUSE YOU’VE SOMEHOW MANAGED TO CONVINCE US NO SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE)..WE’RE GETTING IT FROM SOMEWHERE..WE TRULY LOVE YOU THAT’S WHY WE AGREED TO SUCH A SHITTY DEAL IN THE FIRST PLACE (SORRY EXCUSE MY FRENCH)..SO DON’T BE ADVISIN UR GIRLFRIENDS ‘IF HE TRULY LOVES YOU..HE’LL WAIT AND BE FAITHFUL’..YADA YADA YADA.
DON’T MEAN TO RUFFLE NO FEATHERS..BUT A GUY DOSEN’T HAVE TO ‘LOVE YOU TO LEAVE YOU’ OR ‘LOVE YOU AND LEAVE YOU’..HE’LL LEAVE YOU ANYWAY IF THINGS JUST AINT RIGHT..AND I’M NOT JUST TALKIN THE BEDROOM DEPT !
SO LADIES ..IF YOU DO HAPPEN TO FIND A GUY (THROUGH SOME STROKE OF GENIUS OR FATE) WHO’S STICKING BY YOU THROUGH THICK AND THIN – AND HE AINT GETTIN IT (SEX) FROM YOU !! PLS HOLD HIM TIGHT AND NEVER LET HIM GO…EVEN IF HE WANTS TO GO..TIE HIM TO THE BED WITH A ROPE !..COS WHT YOU HAVE RIGHT THERE IS A RARE GEM !…(NOTICE I DIDNT SAY TRUE LOVE)
ONE LOVE LADIES AND GENTLEMEN !
Its so funny i had this same convo with a friend of mine and apparently it is not just a big deal for dudes its a HUGE deal. They dont want to wait until marriage and as for ur question as to if they’ll pass up a good chick just bcos of sex, ive asked that and i got the ” Lets have an open relationship ‘ answer… and can i add from a countryman…lol..
guys will b guys!
avin sex in a relationships does worth it cos, when the girl lives u u wont feel it dat much.it paifull when u dat a girl 4 3yrs and u both descided no sex,lata u found out dat she has another boyfriend and they do av sex 3time in a weak. Au would u feel?
sorry i had some trouble reading your comment, but from what i think i understood a couple decides to wait but then the boyfriend later finds out that the girl is cheating and having sex. Well if they both consciously decided to wait, but the female is being deceptive then their main problem isn’t “waiting.” The guy happened to pick the wrong girl. Of course he’ll be frustrated, but just because she lied about waiting doesnt mean they all do. their problem isn’t the sex, its the lies.
No…you missed what he said….
This is what he means….
Sex is a relationship is worth it because when the girl leaves you. You, the guy, wont feel that bad. It would hurt the man if he was dating the same girl for 3yrs and didnt have sex. Then she leaves and has sex with her new man 3 times a week….
Here’s my response to that:
Taiwo has just shown us his level of maturity cos that is the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard! What a load of rubbish!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You date a girl for that long and you break up and you are worried about THAT? Not why a 3yr relationship with her ended?
What is wrong with people? Why does everyone place such importance on SEX?! I really do not get it! My goodness!
LMBO…. well i guess Goldie sum that one up for us!!! and i agree with her!!!
Hey this is in response to ashawo’s post….
yea i can see you’re point and i understand it. i just want to respond to ya last sentence:
* “we all break the other ten commandments from time to time in one way or the other and they are as bad a premarital sex.”
i can only speak personally for myself so that’s what i’m doing when i say, just like i strive not to break the other commandments; i strive to not break this one as well.
Also i agree with you on the
*”just because you wait til marriage doesn’t mean that he’ll love and respect you because people change.”
Again, personally (how come there’s no underline button?! lol anywhoo underline personally) waiting for marriage for me isn’t just so “this man wont use me and leave me…” whatever he can marry you, use you and still leave you. Marriage is more of a commitment to myself and God to keep my body, and because i’m counting on God that i’ll make it (lol yea i gotta pray abt that too) I’m also praying and confident that He’ll guide me to the one who will love me for me. Also i think there’s steps/ways to keep from marrying wrong and i’m doing my best to do keep from that. My point is keeping myself isn’t just for my future husband, it’s more for me.
Like its been said many times in responses to this article, ‘to each his own.”
now this really depends on who’s reading this post. you’ll get a very conservative reaction from nija girls and a little less conservative reaction from nija guys but i can asure you you’ll get a very very different reaction from our yankee folks (nija n akata).something that sounds like…hey! who says you have to be in a relationship to have sex anyway?….lmao
LMBO @ the last statement!!!! and hey wait a minute…. i think (i’m not sure) according to these labels i fall under the naija in Yankee and that’s not my point of view!! lol but i get ya drift….
well me too i happen to fall under that same category and that isn’t my point of view either (at least not any more…shhhhh)….but ughhh at least you get my point….