Comments on: Paying for the date. http://www.jaguda.com/2009/07/09/paying-for-the-date/ Naija Culture, Entertainment, Events, Music, and Social Issues Thu, 11 Mar 2010 17:08:30 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Goldie http://www.jaguda.com/2009/07/09/paying-for-the-date/comment-page-2/#comment-5075 Goldie Tue, 27 Oct 2009 01:54:07 +0000 http://www.jaguda.com/?p=1636#comment-5075 Let me explain.... When asked out on a date...I always pick a place I can afford to take myself. I never leave my house without money and I drive to any date...that's right...no picking Goldie up from her house...she doesnt know you like that... Another thing is...I never assume you got it...I will ask BEFORE the date whose treat it is...most times, if I pick the place...I will automatically try and pay... I believe in going somewhere for drinks...another place for dinner and another for after dinner drinks/dessert...at the end of dinner, I may offer to take you somewhere else for dessert...if you focus on who will pay...you give that "power" to be an issue or an uncomfortable situation...that's just my take on it... Let me explain....

When asked out on a date...I always pick a place I can afford to take myself. I never leave my house without money and I drive to any date...that's right...no picking Goldie up from her house...she doesnt know you like that...

Another thing is...I never assume you got it...I will ask BEFORE the date whose treat it is...most times, if I pick the place...I will automatically try and pay...

I believe in going somewhere for drinks...another place for dinner and another for after dinner drinks/dessert...at the end of dinner, I may offer to take you somewhere else for dessert...if you focus on who will pay...you give that "power" to be an issue or an uncomfortable situation...that's just my take on it...

]]> By: adsan http://www.jaguda.com/2009/07/09/paying-for-the-date/comment-page-2/#comment-4085 adsan Thu, 08 Oct 2009 04:46:52 +0000 http://www.jaguda.com/?p=1636#comment-4085 I believe that a man should pay the first date and perhaps two more dates after that. The woman should have the common decency/ courtesy to offer to pay or even go dutch, paying the tip would score points too. What us men are looking from women is a show of appreciation and respect. This disparity in thinking only translates into the enormous number of divorces each year... Women tend over advertise themselves as very much independent, being independent is not just taking care of yourself its also showing that you can help your boyfriend or husband with financial matter on an equal playing ground. What happens in many cases is that while our bank accounts seem to get smaller theirs seem to get bigger...because they seem to just think of themselves "What can he do for me mentality". Those women who seem to take the approach of letting the man take care of the date each and every time end up single for a very long time, because they forget to realize that it is your actions and not your beauty that is going keep a guy around. Just be a little thankful for what we do for you as opposed to just taking, taking and taking. That is all for now and hope that perhaps this was an informative tid bit. A. I believe that a man should pay the first date and perhaps two more dates after that. The woman should have the common decency/ courtesy to offer to pay or even go dutch, paying the tip would score points too. What us men are looking from women is a show of appreciation and respect. This disparity in thinking only translates into the enormous number of divorces each year... Women tend over advertise themselves as very much independent, being independent is not just taking care of yourself its also showing that you can help your boyfriend or husband with financial matter on an equal playing ground. What happens in many cases is that while our bank accounts seem to get smaller theirs seem to get bigger...because they seem to just think of themselves "What can he do for me mentality".

Those women who seem to take the approach of letting the man take care of the date each and every time end up single for a very long time, because they forget to realize that it is your actions and not your beauty that is going keep a guy around. Just be a little thankful for what we do for you as opposed to just taking, taking and taking. That is all for now and hope that perhaps this was an informative tid bit.

A.

]]> By: Deebs http://www.jaguda.com/2009/07/09/paying-for-the-date/comment-page-2/#comment-3146 Deebs Sat, 19 Sep 2009 05:30:23 +0000 http://www.jaguda.com/?p=1636#comment-3146 So I always offer to pay, even on the first date, if the guy is dum enough to accept my offer on the first date. Well, it'll be the last date! And he should pay for the second, by the third it depends on the rest of the dating situation, where we go, who picked the place e.t.c/ So I always offer to pay, even on the first date, if the guy is dum enough to accept my offer on the first date. Well, it'll be the last date! And he should pay for the second, by the third it depends on the rest of the dating situation, where we go, who picked the place e.t.c/

]]> By: TAG http://www.jaguda.com/2009/07/09/paying-for-the-date/comment-page-1/#comment-1922 TAG Mon, 03 Aug 2009 02:40:15 +0000 http://www.jaguda.com/?p=1636#comment-1922 If a guy has wined and dined you 4 dates in a row, it doesn't hurt for you to offer to split the bill or even treat him. I am assuming you are continuing to date him because you like him. So you definitely wont want him to go bankrupt cos he is trying to woo you. Independent woman aside, its time for some women to start being considerate. If a guy has wined and dined you 4 dates in a row, it doesn't hurt for you to offer to split the bill or even treat him. I am assuming you are continuing to date him because you like him. So you definitely wont want him to go bankrupt cos he is trying to woo you. Independent woman aside, its time for some women to start being considerate.

]]> By: Original Mgbeke http://www.jaguda.com/2009/07/09/paying-for-the-date/comment-page-1/#comment-1879 Original Mgbeke Sat, 01 Aug 2009 13:50:11 +0000 http://www.jaguda.com/?p=1636#comment-1879 Ah Ah na! The woman was wrong...and bringing her friends too? She certainly deserved it. I no blame you o jare. LOL @ Riri and proposal night. Ah Ah na! The woman was wrong...and bringing her friends too? She certainly deserved it. I no blame you o jare.
LOL @ Riri and proposal night.

]]> By: Toyin http://www.jaguda.com/2009/07/09/paying-for-the-date/comment-page-1/#comment-1874 Toyin Sat, 01 Aug 2009 06:24:07 +0000 http://www.jaguda.com/?p=1636#comment-1874 I believe that whoever asked the other person out (usually the guy) should be paying for the date. As for the subsequent dates, the lady should offer to pay occassionally. You're absolutely right in stating that the idea of going dutch and women paying for dates is a western one. That is one western idea that I would rather not practice! For this topic, let's just stick to our Naija practices okay? There's no need to complicate things! :) I believe that whoever asked the other person out (usually the guy) should be paying for the date. As for the subsequent dates, the lady should offer to pay occassionally. You're absolutely right in stating that the idea of going dutch and women paying for dates is a western one. That is one western idea that I would rather not practice! For this topic, let's just stick to our Naija practices okay? There's no need to complicate things! :)

]]> By: Real http://www.jaguda.com/2009/07/09/paying-for-the-date/comment-page-1/#comment-1860 Real Fri, 31 Jul 2009 15:14:43 +0000 http://www.jaguda.com/?p=1636#comment-1860 I think its ok for a lady to pay even for the second date,it is up to the guy to decline...Afterall relationship is partnership in my book... I think its ok for a lady to pay even for the second date,it is up to the guy to decline...Afterall relationship is partnership in my book...

]]> By: Real http://www.jaguda.com/2009/07/09/paying-for-the-date/comment-page-1/#comment-1859 Real Fri, 31 Jul 2009 15:08:42 +0000 http://www.jaguda.com/?p=1636#comment-1859 @Tonte..too funny!!! U sure acted fast.LOL @Tonte..too funny!!! U sure acted fast.LOL

]]> By: Aribaba http://www.jaguda.com/2009/07/09/paying-for-the-date/comment-page-1/#comment-1833 Aribaba Thu, 30 Jul 2009 15:45:45 +0000 http://www.jaguda.com/?p=1636#comment-1833 Why didn't I ever respond to the post?...lol. Anyways I believe in paying for the first date, and the second also... by the third date, even though I'll be planning on paying I'd like to hear the babe offer to pay... or insist on paying. It just shows me that your eye no dey chook too much. Why didn't I ever respond to the post?...lol. Anyways I believe in paying for the first date, and the second also... by the third date, even though I'll be planning on paying I'd like to hear the babe offer to pay... or insist on paying. It just shows me that your eye no dey chook too much.

]]> By: Aribaba http://www.jaguda.com/2009/07/09/paying-for-the-date/comment-page-1/#comment-1832 Aribaba Thu, 30 Jul 2009 15:43:20 +0000 http://www.jaguda.com/?p=1636#comment-1832 How do u know how much money Mekus makes?...LOL. How do u know how much money Mekus makes?...LOL.

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