Comments on: Paying for the date. http://www.jaguda.com/2009/07/09/paying-for-the-date/ Nigerian Culture, Entertainment, Events, Music, and Social Issues, Naija Sun, 05 Feb 2012 06:10:32 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Goldie http://www.jaguda.com/2009/07/09/paying-for-the-date/comment-page-1/#comment-5075 Goldie Mon, 26 Oct 2009 21:54:07 +0000 http://www.jaguda.com/?p=1636#comment-5075 Let me explain.... When asked out on a date...I always pick a place I can afford to take myself. I never leave my house without money and I drive to any date...that's right...no picking Goldie up from her house...she doesnt know you like that... Another thing is...I never assume you got it...I will ask BEFORE the date whose treat it is...most times, if I pick the place...I will automatically try and pay... I believe in going somewhere for drinks...another place for dinner and another for after dinner drinks/dessert...at the end of dinner, I may offer to take you somewhere else for dessert...if you focus on who will pay...you give that "power" to be an issue or an uncomfortable situation...that's just my take on it... Let me explain….

When asked out on a date…I always pick a place I can afford to take myself. I never leave my house without money and I drive to any date…that's right…no picking Goldie up from her house…she doesnt know you like that…

Another thing is…I never assume you got it…I will ask BEFORE the date whose treat it is…most times, if I pick the place…I will automatically try and pay…

I believe in going somewhere for drinks…another place for dinner and another for after dinner drinks/dessert…at the end of dinner, I may offer to take you somewhere else for dessert…if you focus on who will pay…you give that "power" to be an issue or an uncomfortable situation…that's just my take on it…

]]> By: adsan http://www.jaguda.com/2009/07/09/paying-for-the-date/comment-page-1/#comment-4085 adsan Thu, 08 Oct 2009 00:46:52 +0000 http://www.jaguda.com/?p=1636#comment-4085 I believe that a man should pay the first date and perhaps two more dates after that. The woman should have the common decency/ courtesy to offer to pay or even go dutch, paying the tip would score points too. What us men are looking from women is a show of appreciation and respect. This disparity in thinking only translates into the enormous number of divorces each year... Women tend over advertise themselves as very much independent, being independent is not just taking care of yourself its also showing that you can help your boyfriend or husband with financial matter on an equal playing ground. What happens in many cases is that while our bank accounts seem to get smaller theirs seem to get bigger...because they seem to just think of themselves "What can he do for me mentality". Those women who seem to take the approach of letting the man take care of the date each and every time end up single for a very long time, because they forget to realize that it is your actions and not your beauty that is going keep a guy around. Just be a little thankful for what we do for you as opposed to just taking, taking and taking. That is all for now and hope that perhaps this was an informative tid bit. A. I believe that a man should pay the first date and perhaps two more dates after that. The woman should have the common decency/ courtesy to offer to pay or even go dutch, paying the tip would score points too. What us men are looking from women is a show of appreciation and respect. This disparity in thinking only translates into the enormous number of divorces each year… Women tend over advertise themselves as very much independent, being independent is not just taking care of yourself its also showing that you can help your boyfriend or husband with financial matter on an equal playing ground. What happens in many cases is that while our bank accounts seem to get smaller theirs seem to get bigger…because they seem to just think of themselves "What can he do for me mentality".

Those women who seem to take the approach of letting the man take care of the date each and every time end up single for a very long time, because they forget to realize that it is your actions and not your beauty that is going keep a guy around. Just be a little thankful for what we do for you as opposed to just taking, taking and taking. That is all for now and hope that perhaps this was an informative tid bit.

A.

]]> By: Deebs http://www.jaguda.com/2009/07/09/paying-for-the-date/comment-page-1/#comment-3146 Deebs Sat, 19 Sep 2009 01:30:23 +0000 http://www.jaguda.com/?p=1636#comment-3146 So I always offer to pay, even on the first date, if the guy is dum enough to accept my offer on the first date. Well, it'll be the last date! And he should pay for the second, by the third it depends on the rest of the dating situation, where we go, who picked the place e.t.c/ So I always offer to pay, even on the first date, if the guy is dum enough to accept my offer on the first date. Well, it'll be the last date! And he should pay for the second, by the third it depends on the rest of the dating situation, where we go, who picked the place e.t.c/

]]> By: TAG http://www.jaguda.com/2009/07/09/paying-for-the-date/comment-page-1/#comment-1922 TAG Sun, 02 Aug 2009 22:40:15 +0000 http://www.jaguda.com/?p=1636#comment-1922 If a guy has wined and dined you 4 dates in a row, it doesn't hurt for you to offer to split the bill or even treat him. I am assuming you are continuing to date him because you like him. So you definitely wont want him to go bankrupt cos he is trying to woo you. Independent woman aside, its time for some women to start being considerate. If a guy has wined and dined you 4 dates in a row, it doesn't hurt for you to offer to split the bill or even treat him. I am assuming you are continuing to date him because you like him. So you definitely wont want him to go bankrupt cos he is trying to woo you. Independent woman aside, its time for some women to start being considerate.

]]> By: Original Mgbeke http://www.jaguda.com/2009/07/09/paying-for-the-date/comment-page-1/#comment-1879 Original Mgbeke Sat, 01 Aug 2009 09:50:11 +0000 http://www.jaguda.com/?p=1636#comment-1879 Ah Ah na! The woman was wrong...and bringing her friends too? She certainly deserved it. I no blame you o jare. LOL @ Riri and proposal night. Ah Ah na! The woman was wrong…and bringing her friends too? She certainly deserved it. I no blame you o jare.

LOL @ Riri and proposal night.

]]> By: Toyin http://www.jaguda.com/2009/07/09/paying-for-the-date/comment-page-1/#comment-1874 Toyin Sat, 01 Aug 2009 02:24:07 +0000 http://www.jaguda.com/?p=1636#comment-1874 I believe that whoever asked the other person out (usually the guy) should be paying for the date. As for the subsequent dates, the lady should offer to pay occassionally. You're absolutely right in stating that the idea of going dutch and women paying for dates is a western one. That is one western idea that I would rather not practice! For this topic, let's just stick to our Naija practices okay? There's no need to complicate things! :) I believe that whoever asked the other person out (usually the guy) should be paying for the date. As for the subsequent dates, the lady should offer to pay occassionally. You're absolutely right in stating that the idea of going dutch and women paying for dates is a western one. That is one western idea that I would rather not practice! For this topic, let's just stick to our Naija practices okay? There's no need to complicate things! :)

]]> By: Real http://www.jaguda.com/2009/07/09/paying-for-the-date/comment-page-1/#comment-1860 Real Fri, 31 Jul 2009 15:14:43 +0000 http://www.jaguda.com/?p=1636#comment-1860 I think its ok for a lady to pay even for the second date,it is up to the guy to decline...Afterall relationship is partnership in my book... I think its ok for a lady to pay even for the second date,it is up to the guy to decline…Afterall relationship is partnership in my book…

]]> By: Real http://www.jaguda.com/2009/07/09/paying-for-the-date/comment-page-1/#comment-1859 Real Fri, 31 Jul 2009 11:08:42 +0000 http://www.jaguda.com/?p=1636#comment-1859 @Tonte..too funny!!! U sure acted fast.LOL @Tonte..too funny!!! U sure acted fast.LOL

]]> By: Aribaba http://www.jaguda.com/2009/07/09/paying-for-the-date/comment-page-1/#comment-1833 Aribaba Thu, 30 Jul 2009 15:45:45 +0000 http://www.jaguda.com/?p=1636#comment-1833 Why didn't I ever respond to the post?...lol. Anyways I believe in paying for the first date, and the second also... by the third date, even though I'll be planning on paying I'd like to hear the babe offer to pay... or insist on paying. It just shows me that your eye no dey chook too much. Why didn’t I ever respond to the post?…lol. Anyways I believe in paying for the first date, and the second also… by the third date, even though I’ll be planning on paying I’d like to hear the babe offer to pay… or insist on paying. It just shows me that your eye no dey chook too much.

]]> By: Aribaba http://www.jaguda.com/2009/07/09/paying-for-the-date/comment-page-1/#comment-1832 Aribaba Thu, 30 Jul 2009 15:43:20 +0000 http://www.jaguda.com/?p=1636#comment-1832 How do u know how much money Mekus makes?...LOL. How do u know how much money Mekus makes?…LOL.

]]> By: Aribaba http://www.jaguda.com/2009/07/09/paying-for-the-date/comment-page-1/#comment-1831 Aribaba Thu, 30 Jul 2009 11:37:41 +0000 http://www.jaguda.com/?p=1636#comment-1831 Wow.... na wa ooo. Nah so u just run leave bill like that? LOL. Anyways... $320 is a lot of money to be spending on a date. That kinda of price is reserved for proposal night...lol. Wow…. na wa ooo. Nah so u just run leave bill like that? LOL. Anyways… $320 is a lot of money to be spending on a date. That kinda of price is reserved for proposal night…lol.

]]> By: Tonte http://www.jaguda.com/2009/07/09/paying-for-the-date/comment-page-1/#comment-1830 Tonte Thu, 30 Jul 2009 11:23:18 +0000 http://www.jaguda.com/?p=1636#comment-1830 I am so 'if'y' on this one, i dun already get some bad xperience wey dun make me shine ma eyes well well. 1st na 4 Houston, I invite dis omoge out (t'was a phone conversation guys), she then chose a name in the Galleria wey me I neva chop for, my alarm indicators went up, I straight up sensed wahala, am mugging & saying 2 maself- why da fcuking Galleria 4 chrisake. I suggested elsewere, she is like naw, I like da Galleria environment, then am like 'is it in da food-court"? she like 'heck nOO!". Am like took another look at ma credit cards & check cards, said the grace, I was quite sure that only 2 of dem is still good, the rest are dead, but 4 some silly reason, I still carry da overload ina ma pocket. Then we agreed to meet there by da hour. 4 one, the joint is kinda far from ma yard..., o well, a nigga gosta do, what a nigga gosta do, u dig. 1hr later, I pulled into da joint, sat down ba da window, waiting 4 her, then took the menu from da waiter, then one look at the prices & knew i made a fcuking bad/worst mistake of ma laife! the lowest shiit on da fcukin menu wast $50!!, Ok 9ja boyz, $50bucks may not sound like much to u, out here in 9ja, but $50 bucks is like paying =N=10,000 for a plate of food, for a BITCH u hardly know, ok! No sooner, was i adjusting to the loss of appitite, than she fcuking dun did show up with TWO of her friends!!! I was like, BiTXX , am not throwing a party 4 u, I hope they are not going to be on da same table with us. She then introduced her friends to me, like Hi mofo, meet ma galz; Shaniqua & Twana, am like - whatever, cos I really did not want to meet no Nae-Ne or Bonita! The meal lasted for about, 1hr, I only drank water, no apetite for food, I dun already lost it, throughout the 1hr, I was busy plotting my exit strategy, cos I was certain that the bill was going to mess up my credit so bad or even cos me to lose ma "green card" no kidding. Well, then she called for the bill & the waiter asked nicely if it should be split or together. b4 I could respond, she asked dat da bills be together, & then she pointed at me as the bill- overseer. The nice waiter gave me the ticket, & am like $320!!, and in a low tone, I gently asked him to plz split da bill, every bitch for herself. Da water was free, & I asked him which way the restroom is (I knew it was on da other side), I gently eased maself outta ma chair, walked away smoothly & briskly b4 da ladies could react to da shock. 10seconds later, I had da bitxx shout ma name out loud, but I was already inside da elevator... I am so 'if'y' on this one, i dun already get some bad xperience wey dun make me shine ma eyes well well. 1st na 4 Houston, I invite dis omoge out (t'was a phone conversation guys), she then chose a name in the Galleria wey me I neva chop for, my alarm indicators went up, I straight up sensed wahala, am mugging & saying 2 maself- why da fcuking Galleria 4 chrisake. I suggested elsewere, she is like naw, I like da Galleria environment, then am like 'is it in da food-court"? she like 'heck nOO!". Am like took another look at ma credit cards & check cards, said the grace, I was quite sure that only 2 of dem is still good, the rest are dead, but 4 some silly reason, I still carry da overload ina ma pocket. Then we agreed to meet there by da hour. 4 one, the joint is kinda far from ma yard…, o well, a nigga gosta do, what a nigga gosta do, u dig. 1hr later, I pulled into da joint, sat down ba da window, waiting 4 her, then took the menu from da waiter, then one look at the prices & knew i made a fcuking bad/worst mistake of ma laife! the lowest shiit on da fcukin menu wast $50!!, Ok 9ja boyz, $50bucks may not sound like much to u, out here in 9ja, but $50 bucks is like paying =N=10,000 for a plate of food, for a BITCH u hardly know, ok! No sooner, was i adjusting to the loss of appitite, than she fcuking dun did show up with TWO of her friends!!! I was like, BiTXX , am not throwing a party 4 u, I hope they are not going to be on da same table with us. She then introduced her friends to me, like Hi mofo, meet ma galz; Shaniqua & Twana, am like – whatever, cos I really did not want to meet no Nae-Ne or Bonita!

The meal lasted for about, 1hr, I only drank water, no apetite for food, I dun already lost it, throughout the 1hr, I was busy plotting my exit strategy, cos I was certain that the bill was going to mess up my credit so bad or even cos me to lose ma "green card" no kidding. Well, then she called for the bill & the waiter asked nicely if it should be split or together. b4 I could respond, she asked dat da bills be together, & then she pointed at me as the bill- overseer. The nice waiter gave me the ticket, & am like $320!!, and in a low tone, I gently asked him to plz split da bill, every bitch for herself. Da water was free, & I asked him which way the restroom is (I knew it was on da other side), I gently eased maself outta ma chair, walked away smoothly & briskly b4 da ladies could react to da shock.

10seconds later, I had da bitxx shout ma name out loud, but I was already inside da elevator…

]]> By: Nice Anon http://www.jaguda.com/2009/07/09/paying-for-the-date/comment-page-1/#comment-1619 Nice Anon Wed, 15 Jul 2009 14:18:37 +0000 http://www.jaguda.com/?p=1636#comment-1619 Na wa oh. Mekus na so? part aristo ke? don't you have to be making loads of money to even think along those lines. How can she be using you for money when e no kon be like you get money that plenty? Na wa oh. Mekus na so? part aristo ke? don't you have to be making loads of money to even think along those lines. How can she be using you for money when e no kon be like you get money that plenty?

]]> By: Gamgam http://www.jaguda.com/2009/07/09/paying-for-the-date/comment-page-1/#comment-1604 Gamgam Tue, 14 Jul 2009 10:25:31 +0000 http://www.jaguda.com/?p=1636#comment-1604 i will never forget the day i was scammed though, dude wanted to spend the evening with me..i ended up paying for stuff i didnt budget, aaha never again. if not that i carry cash ALWAYS i would have been embarassed outta this world. i will never forget the day i was scammed though, dude wanted to spend the evening with me..i ended up paying for stuff i didnt budget, aaha never again. if not that i carry cash ALWAYS i would have been embarassed outta this world.

]]> By: Gamgam http://www.jaguda.com/2009/07/09/paying-for-the-date/comment-page-1/#comment-1602 Gamgam Tue, 14 Jul 2009 10:19:01 +0000 http://www.jaguda.com/?p=1636#comment-1602 in my case, its the case. 5th date? what are you waiting for, u let the person go or 'date' em! in my case, its the case. 5th date? what are you waiting for, u let the person go or 'date' em!

]]> By: Sanka http://www.jaguda.com/2009/07/09/paying-for-the-date/comment-page-1/#comment-1601 Sanka Tue, 14 Jul 2009 09:50:57 +0000 http://www.jaguda.com/?p=1636#comment-1601 Lol...Original Mgbiii, na wah 4 u o! How u go chok me mouth like that nah, eh? If "9ja boys" dey cheap, make she carry herself comot nah, make we know say na her money wey she dey chop. Lol…Original Mgbiii, na wah 4 u o! How u go chok me mouth like that nah, eh? If "9ja boys" dey cheap, make she carry herself comot nah, make we know say na her money wey she dey chop.

]]> By: Original Mgbeke http://www.jaguda.com/2009/07/09/paying-for-the-date/comment-page-1/#comment-1587 Original Mgbeke Mon, 13 Jul 2009 08:56:17 +0000 http://www.jaguda.com/?p=1636#comment-1587 This Sanka sef...always posting like someone stole your cookies! LOL. This Sanka sef…always posting like someone stole your cookies! LOL.

]]> By: Original Mgbeke http://www.jaguda.com/2009/07/09/paying-for-the-date/comment-page-1/#comment-1586 Original Mgbeke Mon, 13 Jul 2009 08:55:47 +0000 http://www.jaguda.com/?p=1636#comment-1586 Totally feel you on this; RepOne. I don't think that the man should pay all the time but if he insists, i certainly won't mind at all. Hehehehhe. And true talk, if a man says let's go dutch then *ahem*, that sure as heck won't sit right with me. Totally feel you on this; RepOne. I don't think that the man should pay all the time but if he insists, i certainly won't mind at all. Hehehehhe.

And true talk, if a man says let's go dutch then *ahem*, that sure as heck won't sit right with me.

]]> By: Original Mgbeke http://www.jaguda.com/2009/07/09/paying-for-the-date/comment-page-1/#comment-1585 Original Mgbeke Mon, 13 Jul 2009 08:54:24 +0000 http://www.jaguda.com/?p=1636#comment-1585 LOL, abi na. I go just cross leg dey look am. :-D LOL, abi na. I go just cross leg dey look am. :-D

]]> By: Sanka http://www.jaguda.com/2009/07/09/paying-for-the-date/comment-page-1/#comment-1582 Sanka Mon, 13 Jul 2009 07:50:20 +0000 http://www.jaguda.com/?p=1636#comment-1582 Abeg let's be cheap...if recession no dey your side, e dey our side! Na people like you wey never chop shrimp for house wey man go carry comot, you go order lobster like say na daily bread for you! Abeg let's be cheap…if recession no dey your side, e dey our side! Na people like you wey never chop shrimp for house wey man go carry comot, you go order lobster like say na daily bread for you!

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