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If A Girl Is Not A Virgin, Is She A Whore?

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Well, is she? Whore is a harsh label to use, but if you think about it, women don’t have much leeway when defining a sexual identity. Depending on the situation, when a woman engages in sexual activity, she runs a high risk of being seen as “easy” or as a “slut,” the latter of which is a synonym for “whore.” Being a virgin should not mark how much a woman is worth or how “good” she is.

The most important reason why a woman’s virginity should not determine her worth is the fact that a man’s virginity does not define his. If a man messes around with or sleeps with one woman too soon he is not “easy.” If a man messes around with or sleeps with many women, or
has a child out of wedlock, he is never a “slut.” This hypocritical paradigm is unfair. Although males and females are biologically different, as human beings males and females are equal and so should be held to the same moral standard.

One moral standard means that the freedom associated with male sexuality should be associated with female sexuality as well, and that men should carry as much responsibility for their sexual actions as women do. What would this look like? The world would be better if a woman could confide in her mother about losing her virginity without being ex-communicated from her family. The world would be better if a woman’s brother received as much pressure to live with purity as she did. The world would be better if, after reporting sexual assault, a female (or male!) victim received support instead of suspicion or derision.

Unfortunately, the world is not perfect, and we still live in a society where women are victimized and/or demonized for their sexual choices and experiences. I have documented this madness in a symbolic, short film called “Innocence & Patriarchy,” which you can find on Youtube (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MWfo1EJpNes). I’m not advocating another sexual revolution. All I want is for people to reconsider the current sexual double-standard and hold the men in their lives accountable for their actions.

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By Omenka Uchendu


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  • habeycity April 9, 2012 at 3:39 am

    i gbadun dis jawe

  • @onZaxis April 9, 2012 at 7:25 am

    na wa o. una dis dey on dis topic. smh
    http://www.the3axes.com

  • wisdom April 9, 2012 at 8:28 am

    Hahaha! A man is a man and a woman is a woman right 4rom creation. Nothing can change that. Talking about sex woman have the shortest live span

    So comparing the woman sexual activities with that of a man is like another sweet story in vogue. In conclusion, in all manner of reasoning, women should be xtremly be careful in engaging in sexual activities compared to the man becos a woman get weaker and fades away soon biologically verified. The more a woman engages her self in sexuAllity the more she gets weak.

    • SLEEK_RICK April 14, 2012 at 11:18 am

      Your comment oozes soooo much ignorance and stupidity.

  • Johnjack April 9, 2012 at 12:39 pm

    Being a virgin is good’ am one

  • azeez April 9, 2012 at 1:04 pm

    Is dis ur idea of female emacipation?mtchewwww

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  • missE April 14, 2012 at 2:38 pm

    @wisdom: are u dumb? Like seriously? A woman gets weaker and weaker each time she has sex? I can’t believe what I just read. Dude you need to get an education. Ignoramus!

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